The purpose of this posting is to learn from my own personal experience and carve my own personality trait so that I can move with certainty with my Ikigai. It is not intended as a way of labeling me into a preset behavior. After going through the MBTI, I realized that the researchers are trying to generalize people into boxes based on consensus rather than scientific observation. The problem with consensus is you tend to go broad [] (rather) than specific.
Instead of following a broad definition of what an INFJ should be, I decided to come up with my own analysis based on the questions that I answered.
Basically, the strongest trait that I observe is I am a loner. I simply like being by myself. I don't care about what people think and do as long as I am allowed to be who I want to be. As far as I am concerned, everybody is entitled to live the life that they deemed fit. We don't have to conform and act like the herd.
Does that mean I don't care about people? Certainly not. However, given a choice, I will rather be left alone. I only interact with people outside my circle of influence to earn a living. I am really not comfortable being in a crowd.
It is true that I am an idealist and a perfectionist. That doesn't mean I only see the big picture. In situations that warrant me to pay attention to detail, I can get very technical. I would say that one of my assets is my ability to zoom in and out when analyzing an issue.
I thrive in paradoxes. Being a Southpaw I am naturally [] (an) ambidextrous. That is why when I look at a situation, I can look at both sides of the argument.
In governing my behavior, I would say my thinking style takes precedence over my personality traits. I might be an INFJ but my thinking style makes me both rational and emotional.
I would say the MBTI is too compartmentalized in describing me. Just because I am the feeling type, that doesn't mean I care for altruistic causes. Yes, I do care, but I only care for those who are close to me. As for the rest of the population, they are faces in the crowd. I used to care a lot. During the time I was in SJ&A, I care about those under my responsibility. Unfortunately, I realized that if you care too much, you will get disappointed. From that point on I stop caring other than those who matter to me.
Rather than emphasizing on being a feeling person, I prefer being described as a thinker. Not so much a logical thinker but a person who is thoughtful. I do think a lot. Maybe because I trust my instinct more than my intellect. I like to plan carefully before I start on something new. I also like to read a lot.
As it is I can accept that I am an INFJ but truthfully I don't see much of myself in the Advocate Premium Profile. That's why I was depressed in the past few days. I know I am weird, but I don't see myself as the champion of the human cause.
Should I have enough money, I would split that with those that I love and be happy to be left alone.
MBTI missed the single most important aspect of my personality big time; I am a lone warrior. I will fight for a cause but only if the cause is aligned to my personal agenda. For example, I am motivated to develop the Mental Health and Positive Psychology not because I want to be the champion of mental health. I want to do it because I want my voice to be heard. Most importantly I want to be a subject matter expert.
Having said all these, INFJ can be a good facade. I don't want people to know me as a selfish narcissist, Definitely, I am not that. However, I don't really care about humanity at large. I am happy existing in the midst of the crowd minding my own business like right now.
Given a choice, I like to only deal with those who are close to me and not bothered with the rest.
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I bought the Advocate Premium Profile because I honestly believe that the report can help me understand myself better. However, after spending 2 days reading the report, I don't think it represents who I am. As a person, I am very individualistic and private. I don't have an inclination toward humanitarian and altruistic values. Based on the questions I answered, I can say that I am an INFJ person. However, I think the report overemphasizes my concern for others. The F in the INFJ doesn't accurately describe who I am. At best I am thoughtful for those whom I care. However, I couldn't care less about humanity at large. I was very disappointed that the 244 pages report is nothing more than a tool to compartmentalized me *i[s] (in) a box that I don't think is a good fit. My regrets...
* You know me better, Sarah.
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