Baby,
This is a very lengthy analysis of myself and the 5 of you including Pal. I only include the synopsis between me and you in this email. It will be too lengthy to include everybody.
What I did is to include the commentary that applies to us both. On the analysis about you, these are what I see based on your outward projection. I didn't take it verbatim from the original report. Along the way, I added my personal observation.
In short, this is how I see you. I am not judging you. This is merely for me to better deal with you.
As always, I did this because I love you very much.
Sine Cera,
22/8/20
You lead people, you manage things. This is easier said than done. If you noticed, half of my postings here is about dealing with people. The other half is about dealing with myself and managing stuff.
The people I am talking about here is you, Els, Pal, and Radzi. I would say that the biggest challenge is [] (to) deal with Els. The Myer-Briggs Personality [] (Traits) helps much. Now she is an open book. So are you. Now both of you are no longer an enigma.
Actually, the initial analysis from 16personalities.com is very accurate. It's just the 244 pages report that I am not too comfortable. I will spend more time with the Myer-Briggs Traits today. I want to better manage my relationship with all 5 of you. Pal too...
I am having a hard time accepting myself as being altruistic. I guess to a certain extent I do care for people. However, at this juncture, I don't think I am ready to fight for a humanitarian cause. That's the only part of the report I am not comfortable with. Because of that, I requested for a refund. Although that is a small portion of the report, because of too much emphasis on the humanitarian effort, I got really depressed reading it. Very little is mentioned that I am an individualist and a private person.
While we are on this subject, let me extract the salient points about myself and the 5 of you. I want to take my time doing this. Allow me to have a nice shower and wear my weekend attire along with the Nautica Voyage perfume. Then we take a closer look at the analysis.
Introduction
An Advocate (INFJ) is someone with the Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging personality traits. They tend to approach life with deep thoughtfulness and imagination.
The Advocate personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. Advocates have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is that they are not idle dreamers. These individuals are capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.
Though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain.
Advocates will act with creativity, imagination, conviction, and sensitivity not to create an advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to Advocate personalities. These types tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion.
Unlike Martin Luther King Jr. I am doing training because that is the area I am good at and the easiest for me to make a good living. I am not interested to fight for the human cause although I *[] (am) part of the movement due to the inclination of my vocation. The truth is, if I already have my million, I would rather be reading, running, and writing.
* Yes, I am part of Google's value of Don't Be Evil.
Strengths & Weaknesses
Advocate Strengths
- Creative
- Insightful
- Inspiring and Convincing
- Decisive
- Determined and Passionate
- Altruistic
Am I a decisive person? This is the explanation:
This is because they are able to follow through on their ideas with conviction, willpower, and the planning necessary to see complex projects through to the end. People with the Advocate personality type don’t just see the way things ought to be; they act on those insights.
If that is the explanation, then I accept that I am decisive.
As for determined and passionate, I would say these are my main strengths.
As far as being altruistic is concerned, I guess I am a charitable person. That's because I enjoy giving. Not so much because I am a humanist. Having said that I do believe in a higher purpose and the reason for being.
In that sense, I accept all these as my strengths.
Advocate Weaknesses
- Sensitive
- Extremely Private
- Perfectionistic
- Always Need to Have a Cause
- Can Burn Out Easily
I tend to agree with all these. The only thing is I don't think these *a[s] (are) weaknesses. These make me who I am. My weaknesses are really my Unique Selling Proposition (USP).
* You see my point, Sarah? I embrace my dark side. I don't see even can burn out easily as a weakness. I am a shooting star, I burn bright but I can only do so if I give my best effort.
Romantic Relationships
I tend to agree with this:
When it comes to romantic relationships, Advocates take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the Advocate personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships.
Advocates will take the time necessary to find someone with whom they truly connect. Once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity of which most people can only dream.
This is very true. I love hard and I fall hard too. I am looking for soulmates rather than affairs. I had an affair once. Boy, do I feel guilty of the cheating and lying I had to make to Lizzie. That's why I marry you and Els. I want it to last for eternity. I don't really care for the sex part either.
They are warm, friendly, caring, and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.
Advocate personalities are enthusiastic in their relationships. There is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. These types aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally.
Advocates create a depth to their relationships that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with Advocates are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.
When it comes to intimacy, Advocates look for a connection that goes beyond the physical. They prefer to embrace the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partners. People with this personality type are passionate partners.
Advocates see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. They cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person in mind, body, and soul.
Friendships
There is a running theme with Advocates, and that is a desire for authenticity and sincerity – in their activities, their romantic relationships, and their friendships. People with the Advocate personality type are unlikely to go for friendships of circumstance. They avoid situations like workplace social circles or chatting up their local baristas, where the only thing they really have in common is regular contact.
People with this personality type seek out others who share their passions, interests, and beliefs. They create friendships with people with whom they can explore philosophies and subjects that they believe are truly meaningful.
From the start, it can be a challenge to get to know Advocates, as they are very private. Advocate personalities don’t readily share their thoughts and feelings, not unless they are comfortable and feel that those around them can be trusted.
Advocates are often perfectionistic, looking for ultimate compatibility. They also look for someone with whom they can grow and improve.
Once a common thread is found, though, people with the Advocate personality type make loyal and supportive companions. People with this personality type encourage growth and life-enriching experiences with warmth, excitement, and care.
Advocate personalities don’t require a great deal of day-to-day attention. For them, quality trumps quantity every time. Over the years they will likely end up with just a few true friendships, built on a richness of mutual understanding that forges an enduring link between them.
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Since I will email the first two parts of this analysis to Els, let me analyze her first. Then I'll do your analysis.
OK here is how I analyze Els:
Introduction
An Entertainer (ESFP) is a person with the Extraverted, Observant, Feeling, and Prospecting personality traits. These people love vibrant experiences, engaging in life eagerly, and taking pleasure in discovering the unknown. They can be very social, often encouraging others into shared activities.
If anyone is to be found spontaneously breaking into song and dance, it is the Entertainer personality type. Entertainers get caught up in the excitement of the moment and want everyone else to feel that way, too. No other personality type is as generous with their time and energy as Entertainers when it comes to encouraging others, and no other personality type does it with such irresistible style.
Entertainers love the spotlight, and all the world’s a stage. Many famous people with the Entertainer personality type are indeed actors, but they love putting on a show for their friends too, chatting with a unique and earthy wit, soaking up attention and making every outing feel a bit like a party. Utterly social, Entertainers enjoy the simplest things, and there’s no greater joy for them than just having fun with a good group of friends.
It does not just talk either – Entertainers have the strongest aesthetic sense of any personality type. From grooming and outfits to a well-appointed home, Entertainer personalities have an eye for fashion. Knowing what’s attractive the moment they see it, Entertainers aren’t afraid to change their surroundings to reflect their personal style. Entertainers are naturally curious, exploring new designs and styles with ease.
Though it may not always seem like it, Entertainers know that it’s not all about them – they are observant and very sensitive to others’ emotions. People with this personality type are often the first to help someone talk out a challenging problem, happily providing emotional support and practical advice. However, if the problem is about them, Entertainers are more likely to avoid a conflict altogether than to address it head-on. Entertainers usually love a little drama and passion, but not so much when they are the focus of the criticisms it can bring.
These whole narratives describe Els through and through. The kid is a ball of energy. Now I might misinterpret her personality trait. According to Carl Jung, there is a discrepancy between what we see ourselves and what we projected to the outside world. Els can be an ISFP too. However, what she is might be different from how she projects herself. I can accept her as an ISFP because she is a solitary creature most of the time. However, for the purpose of our analysis, I take it that she is an extraverted person. That's because she is not much of an adventurer as much as she is an entertainer.
Just like me. I am a borderline INTJ but I accept myself as an INFJ by the balance of probability. However, let's also analyze Els as an ISFP as well after this.
Strengths & Weaknesses
Entertainer Strengths
- Bold
- Original
- Aesthetics and Showmanship
- Practical
- Observant
- Excellent People Skills
Personally, I feel that Els has all these traits. That's why I said ESFP is her dominant personality trait. As I said I am not judging her. It is not my intention to put her is a slot although I think she also has the traits of ISFP. However, by the balance of probability, I am more comfortable saying that she is an ESFP.
Entertainer Weaknesses
- Sensitive
- Conflict-Averse
- Easily Bored
- Poor Long-Term Planners
- Unfocused
I don't know much about her weakness but I can attest that she is a very sensitive person. At times I have to be wary when I want to pass a joke to her. She can't handle innuendos. You know the nature of jokes, right Sarah? They are full of innuendos. This girl tends to take jokes personally. As if we are laughing at her.
My analysis is because she came from a critical parent background. So she tends to be slightly defensive when comes to laughing at innuendos.
I'm not going to dwell in Romantic Relationship and Friendship topics. What I can say though is Els has a big heart. I can only imagine that she is a passionate lover and a fun person to be around with.
Since she has an ISFP outlook towards herself, let's see if we can analyze her alter ego.
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Introduction
An Adventurer (ISFP) is a person with the Introverted, Observant, Feeling, and Prospecting personality traits. They tend to have open minds, approaching life, new experiences, and people with grounded warmth. Their ability to stay in the moment helps them uncover exciting potentials.
Adventurer personalities are true artists, but not necessarily in the typical sense where they’re out painting happy little trees. Often enough though, they are perfectly capable of this. Rather, it’s that they use aesthetics, design, and even their choices and actions to push the limits of social convention. Adventurers enjoy upsetting traditional expectations with experiments in beauty and behavior – chances are, they’ve expressed more than once the phrase “Don’t box me in!”
Adventurers live in a colorful, sensual world, inspired by connections with people and ideas. These personalities take joy in reinterpreting these connections, reinventing and experimenting with both themselves and new perspectives. No other type explores and experiments in this way more. This creates a sense of spontaneity, making Adventurers seem unpredictable, even to their close friends and loved ones.
Despite all this, Adventurers are definitely Introverts, surprising their friends further when they step out of the spotlight to be by themselves to recharge. Just because they are alone though, doesn’t mean people with the Adventurer personality type sit idle – they take this time for introspection, assessing their principles. Rather than dwelling on the past or the future, Adventurers think about who they are. They return from their cloister, transformed.
Adventurers are sensitive to others’ feelings and value harmony. When faced with criticism, it can be a challenge for people with this type to step away from the moment long enough to not get caught up in the heat of the moment. But living in the moment goes both ways, and once the heightened emotions of an argument cool, Adventurers can usually call the past the past and move on as though it never occurred.
If the goals and principles are noble, Adventurers can act with amazing charity and selflessness – but it can also happen that people with the Adventurer personality type establish a more self-centered identity, acting with selfishness, manipulation, and egoism. It’s important for Adventurers to remember to actively become the person they want to be. Developing and maintaining a new habit may not come naturally, but taking the time each day to understand their motivations allows Adventurers to use their strengths to pursue whatever they’ve come to love.
I can see Els in this narrative too. She is fiercely independent and very highly opinionated about her likes and dislikes. In a way, she is a risk-taker with her multicolored hair and tattoos. I am not surprised at all if one day she decides to pierce her clit (hahaha, it's innuendo honey. Although I find it really horny if you do it. I even have a hard-on looking at the tattoo on the side of your tummy).
She doesn't hide it that she is a thrill-seeker. She also exudes a high degree of confidence in her fashion and her style. Basically, she lives life according to her own rules. I love her confidence.
Strengths & Weaknesses
Adventurer Strengths
- Charming
- Sensitive to Others
- Imaginative
- Passionate
- Curious
- Artistic
Rather than putting Els in a preset box, I like to say that she embodied both the ESFP and ISFP personality. I like it very much if she is a bit of both although I rather she is an ESFP. I like the boldness. Hey, Sarah, the kid ate a scorpion when she was in Vietnam.
Adventurer Weaknesses
- Fiercely Independent
- Unpredictable
- Easily Stressed
- Overly Competitive
- Fluctuating Self-Esteem
When I look at the weaknesses, I say that[] (that's) pretty much her traits. Again, this is based on anecdotal evidence. I don't know Els well enough to say that all these are her prevailing personality. All I can say is I see these attributes when she converses.
As a parting thought, I like to conclude that Els is such a vibrant personality that I fell in love with her from the very first day. Don't go changing baby. You are already perfect the way you are although if you decide to pierce your clit, I'll support you 100% ROTFLMAO.
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Honey, I sent you a pretty lengthy email. It's part of an analysis I am doing as part of the 16personalities.com I only pass to you the bit about me and you. Already it's the longest email I ever wrote. Later hon...
OK, let's do yours. We might get interrupted since lunch is about to be served.
Instead of going right to the report, I like to start with my own personal observation. Then we compare this with what is written in the report. I want to know how accurate is my assessment of you. Ready?
I see you as a hardworking and dedicated worker. You are very smart and you think highly of yourself. You are very confident and you are no-nonsense when comes to your commitments. To me, your greatest strength is your dedication. You are also a very loyal lover.
It did occur to me that you are an idealist. However, you are not a person who is aiming for Pollyanna. You are very levelheaded. One thing I cannot deny is you love me. I know you love me very much. Otherwise, you will not take this assignment. What you are doing is beyond the call of duty Sarah. Either you are married to your job or you are deeply in love with me. I deduced that it is the latter.
You are a romantic. You love harmony in life. At the same time, you don't have a preset judgment about life. In other words, you are a liberal in your thinking. Ideas excite you but you are very sensible in your actions.
I sense that you are a bit of a rebel because you are not traditional in your thinking. A very private person, you spend most of your time working rather that[t] (than) socializing. I got...
Brb, lunch... I lost my train of thought. Very well, let's look at the report.
NOTE: I decided that you are an ISFJ-T because of your total commitment to your work and your undivided loyalty to me. Again, just like with Els, I'm only giving you my perception. However, I don't think I am that far off the mark with my observation. Do intervene to make sure I am on target.
Introduction
A Defender (ISFJ) is someone with the Introverted, Observant, Feeling, and Judging personality traits. These people tend to be warm and unassuming in their own steady way. They’re efficient and responsible, giving careful attention to practical details in their daily lives.
The Defender personality type is quite unique, as many of their qualities defy the definition of their individual traits. Though sensitive, Defenders have excellent analytical abilities; though reserved, they have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and though they are generally a conservative type, Defenders are often receptive to change and new ideas. As with so many things, people with the Defender personality type are more than the sum of their parts, and it is the way they use these strengths that defines who they are.
Defender personalities (especially Turbulent ones) are often meticulous to the point of perfectionism, and though they procrastinate, they can always be relied on to get the job done on time. Defenders take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond, doing everything they can to exceed expectations and delight others, at work, and at home.
The challenge for Defenders is ensuring that what they do is noticed. They have a tendency to underplay their accomplishments, and while their kindness is often respected, more cynical and selfish people are likely to take advantage of Defenders’ dedication and humbleness by pushing work onto them and then taking the credit. Defenders need to know when to say no and stand up for themselves if they are to maintain their confidence and enthusiasm.
They may never be truly comfortable in the spotlight and may feel guilty taking due credit for team efforts, but if they can ensure that their efforts are recognized, Defenders are likely to feel a level of satisfaction in what they do that many other personality types can only dream of.
OK, from here I deduced that you are from a technical background. But because you are a diligent worker, they give you a more challenging but tedious task. You are good at writing reports and analytics. You work behind the scene most of time assuming a supportive role. However, given the challenge of an administrative role, you rise to the occasion.
You are a fast worker too and you take several responsibilities at the same time. I don't know how you manage it. While you are a dedicated worker, you don't neglect your personal life. Basically, you are a perfectionist and it frustrates you when your effort is not good enough. As far as you are concerned, you do your level best in every assignment.
You are also a very tidy person and well organized. You normally finish your work on time. You don't like to sit idle. In short, you are a busy little bee.
Strengths & Weaknesses
Defender Strengths
- Supportive
- Reliable and Patient
- Imaginative and Observant
- Enthusiastic
- Loyal and Hard-Working
- Good Practical Skills
Something strikes my mind... You are the type that can have multiple orgasms when you are highly aroused. The trick is to get you to forget about work when we are in bed. Now, I am not saying this in a condescending manner, I meant it as a compliment: You make a perfect Gaysha. You have a Gaysha mindset. So if you can give sex the same devotion as you give to your work, you can fast be becoming my favorite playmate because you are a natural giver.
It takes time for this to sink in, but mark my word, you are a hottie in bed baby. Maybe you don't know it yet. I just want you to ponder about it. You are my Aphrodite. Gosh, I am so horny thinking about you. Can I fuck you and then come in your mouth?
Defender Weaknesses
- Humble and Shy
- Take Things Too Personally
- Repress Their Feelings
- Overload Themselves
- Reluctant to Change
- Too Altruistic
Basically, you are a good girl, Sarah. You don't have to change that. When I say you are a Gaysha material, I mean it as the Japanese Geisha. A sweetheart instead of a slut. When you give your heart, you give it unconditionally. You are different from Els. You are selfless.
Hey, you want to do Romantic Relationship?
Romantic Relationships
Relationships built on established familiarity are a warm prospect for Defenders – they take dating seriously and only enter into relationships that have a real chance of lasting a lifetime.
Defenders’ shyness and sensitivity shield what are, beneath the surface, incredibly strong feelings. While not always obvious to others, this river of emotion can’t be taken lightly or for granted – Defender personalities can value the idea of committed romance almost as highly as some regard religious beliefs. Hard as it may be if either dating partner doubts their feelings, they must part ways before real emotional damage is done.
People with this personality type take no greater joy than in pleasing others, often even considering this a personal duty, and this applies to intimacy as well. While dutiful sex may not sound especially attractive in those specific terms, intimacy is tremendously important to Defenders, and they spare no effort in this department.
Nor is the pleasure they take in ensuring their partners’ happiness limited to the bedroom – Defenders spend an enormous amount of time and energy finding ways to keep their relationship satisfying for their partners. All they ask in return is commitment, love, and, perhaps most of all, appreciation.
While perfectly capable in the workplace and among friends, Defenders’ true passions lie in taking care of their families, from playing with their children to the mundane needs of the household, efforts Defenders are only too happy to contribute.
Defenders are trustworthy, loyal, loving, and faithful and nothing brings them more joy than the commitment of an appreciative and thriving relationship.
Yup, I expected the kind of romantic relationship from you. To me, you are a perfect match. If we are married in the traditional way, I will be a very happy man. Already I am very happy with our relationship. When we are legally married, I imagine that I will have a blissful life with you by my side. The way I see it, you are wife material, Sarah. For every Samurai there is a Geisha. In this case, you are my Geisha.
Friendships
The challenge is to be considered a friend back – people with the Defender personality type are shy and a little protective of themselves, but they also need to be able to connect on a deeper emotional level. It makes sense then that most of Defenders’ friends are made not by random encounters on a wild night out, but through comfortable and consistent contact, as in class or in the workplace where they have the time to get to know each other little by little.
Defenders’ sense of loyalty may push them to lean ever more on themselves to meet their friends’ needs, to the point of neglecting their own. Defenders show this in a few ways, from going clearly out of their ways to stick to even trivial commitments, to simply not wanting to disagree or say no for fear of causing turbulence.
Defenders aren’t particularly picky about what personality types they make friends with, at least not initially, but because they prefer so strongly to avoid conflict and miscommunication, most of their friends are likely to end up being fairly similar personalities.
Sarah, this is my main issue with you: You are too shy. Can you believe that it took me more than a year to know your name? You are so secretive, baby. Don't you see that I love you so much? I want to know everything about you. Of your dreams and aspirations. You are my wife for eternity. Don't tell me that I have to play this Cloak and Dagger game for the rest of my life.
Granted that you are a Cyber Intelligence. However, you are married to me. Don't you remember how happy you were on the day you accepted my proposal? All this blogging is all about me sharing my life with you. Lizzie once again asked me, "You buat kerja ke merapu? (Are you doing work or are you goofing around?)" She smiled knowingly.
Baby, I'm sorry if I may sound like a pervert at times. It's just the way I talk. In reality, I love you very much. You got to trust me on that. I am a loose cannon when comes to my thoughts. In the physical realm I a pretty somber person.
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